Five ways to work on your serenity
The feeling of being grounded can be achieved through daily self-improvement based on three complementary and interdependent factors: your thoughts, your emotions, and your body. They may not all be easy to master.
1/ Know how to spot whether you are grounded (or not)
To see whether you are grounded here and now:
Scan your thoughts:
- Are your thoughts clear, do words come easily to you, do you have ideas, are you effective, open, and curious? Grounded!
- Do you tend to be judgmental, of yourself and others, do the same thoughts keep going around and around? Not grounded.
Check out your feelings and emotions:
- Are you joyful, satisfied, confident, enthusiastic? Grounded!
- Do you feel angry, irritated, bewildered, worried, fearful? Not grounded.
Watch for bodily signals:
- Is your breathing calm, are your features relaxed, do your legs bear you easily? Grounded!
- Is your stomach in knots, your neck stiff, your shoulders hunched, your back aching? Not grounded.
· Think back on a situation in which you felt grounded and compare what you felt then with what you’re feeling now.
2/ Cultivate a lasting equilibrium
Use these three methods to stay grounded:
Put your mind to good use:
- Practice spotting thoughts that distract you from what is going on with you here and now.
- If you feel your thoughts are wandering, reconnect to the present through activities you enjoy and that make use of your powers of concentration.
- Be clear about your basic needs, those you would not want to compromise.
- Take a step back and look at your mental routines and subconscious attachments, i.e., your personal beliefs and habits that are triggered without your awareness.
Excerpt from Business Digest N°308, July – August 2020